Finding the Missing One...

I grew up knowing I was adopted. Knowing more just didn't seem a priority. Then I decided to ride my motorcycle cross country to Co. and visit my Aunt and cousins.  It was then I learned that my Aunt wasn't my Aunt, but my Birth Mother.  And my cousins weren't cousins but rather half siblings.  So as the story unfolded, I learned I had another brother who also had been given up for Adoption. It was John who I wanted to find. I registered with Diane and Mary at I.C.A.R.E.

I was able to obtain the medical records of my brother's birth and armed with that information Mary and I set out to find him. Mary was working on gut hunch and me being the more logical one, I wasn't making any guess's. So, when Mary predicted by name, which record was my brother's  (before we viewed them) I just kinda laughed and said,  "yeah, ok. we will see."

So, is was much to my surprise that the record Mary picked turned out to be John! We were primed then and out to find him. We learned he never left the City of his birth. We were able to locate him and his adoptive parents in the City Directory. We realized  he was employed near by at an elite hotel. So, off we went to find him.  In the personnel dept. we found an understanding girl who wanted to help us. She pulled John's employment records and told us how long he had been there and that he left the previous year. She even offered to get his file from storage and allow me to see his picture.

I then decided to call his Adoptive Parents and tell them who I was and why I was looking for John. They were the nicest people and accepted my inquiry graciously and with warmth in their hearts. They told me John was in Fl. but would be coming home in near future. They gave me John's phone number. And of course I called him and did I blow his mind!

He was surprised to learn he had 5 siblings. He always knew he was adopted but did not know that he and I shared a common bond. We talked off and on till he came home for Christmas. It was awkward but a welcomed reunion when we met for the first time. We learned we have  many things in common. He had been contemplating Searching so was glad that I wanted to find him also.

His parents are "Special". They were receptive of me and my family and welcomed us into their home and family.  We spent Christmas with them and shared memories of each others lives. John and I continue to communicate over the miles, he in Fl and I in WI.  Without the help of ICARE, this would not have been possible. Thanks girls!

Bob Lovrek