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   Mary you may now remove Search ID 4074!!!
 I HAVE FOUND HER!!!!!!  For those of you searching DON'T GIVE UP because it is the greatest thing you will ever experiance once you find what you are looking for! 

 First I must thank Mary and her fellow searchers for all the help they have given me. The tips and tricks were simply the best. 

 No Mary didn't find my Birthmother for me. I did that part on my own, but she can give you great advice!!! 

 Never under estimate Facebook! Just keep trying if you know at least the City in which your birthmother was from. Try using High School records and Facebook Friend adds  from those High Schools. Thats how I found my Birthmother! A Random friend request was infact my Birthmother. 

 We have been using email and Windows Chat to commuincate thus far. Small steps but better than no steps at all.

 So my next question is how can I help her tell her other children about me as they don't know I exsist? She wants to tell them but can't seem to find the words. It's not like she can say "Please pass the butter. Oh by the way you have a brother." Her Children are now adults that are married and have children of their own. Any Idea's on this my fellow Icare friends?

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rkr97 Newbie Joined: 24 Nov 2007 Posts: 4	Topic: WE WIN! WE WIN! WE WIN! FOUND! Posted: 27 Jul 2010 at 10:11pm
	Mary you may now remove Search ID 4074!!! I HAVE FOUND HER!!!!!! For those of you searching DON'T GIVE UP because it is the greatest thing you will ever experiance once you find what you are looking for! First I must thank Mary and her fellow searchers for all the help they have given me. The tips and tricks were simply the best. No Mary didn't find my Birthmother for me. I did that part on my own, but she can give you great advice!!! Never under estimate Facebook! Just keep trying if you know at least the City in which your birthmother was from. Try using High School records and Facebook Friend adds from those High Schools. Thats how I found my Birthmother! A Random friend request was infact my Birthmother. We have been using email and Windows Chat to commuincate thus far. Small steps but better than no steps at all. So my next question is how can I help her tell her other children about me as they don't know I exsist? She wants to tell them but can't seem to find the words. It's not like she can say "Please pass the butter. Oh by the way you have a brother." Her Children are now adults that are married and have children of their own. Any Idea's on this my fellow Icare friends?
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mary Moderator ICARE Founder Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 678	Posted: 29 Jul 2010 at 11:59am
	I think anout this and have in the past too and only one Option comes to mind. BE TRUTHFUL. Have the kids come home and simply tell them there is something I want to tell you. I hope you will not love or respect me any less for what I am going to say. Then indicate When I was younger and became invovlved and as a result..... just say how it happened and why Adoption decision was made. Also, as to why she didn't tell them, she was under the impression she could never know nor search and wanted to spare them. Truth always works because you don't have to make up lies to cover up things. Best of luck to you. Just helped two other adoptees complete their searches in the past couple weeks. WIth social history, anything is possible and some are even successful. Mary ICARE
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